This is my graceful word of warning to the general public about my travel habits:
I DO NOT WISH TO ASSOCIATE WITH ANYONE WHILE I AM MOVING FROM PLACE TO PLACE BY MYSELF!!
While taking public transportation, I have my earbuds in my ears. Full sound cancelling technology so I hear nothing, but my music. I have a book which I am preoccupying myself with as well because I want to read a story and remove myself from the environment. Maybe I am watching a movie on my phone. I have full torrent capabilities and access to Netflix. I will be fully involved in my screen if I feel like it. If I’m driving, please believe my music is up to a level where it gives me the same effect as my earbuds. You better be really lost if you want to come to me at a red light for directions.
It seems like I just happen to be at one extreme of the 2 main types of travelers. There’s the easily agitated anti-social and the really pleasant hyper-social. If you live in NYC and take the buses and trains often, you will know what I am talking about. And yes, I know there are people who fall into the middle spectrum.
I like my alone time.
Don’t stop me while I’m walking. Don’t tap me on my shoulder and ask me questions while you see me sitting listening to music. Don’t try and get my attention. Don’t hand me anything and don’t get into my path of travel. I have given many dirty looks. I have dished out a plethora of attitudes. I’ve straight ignored people, flipped the bird, and raised my right eyebrow with incredulity for being disturbed at that moment. Don’t do it to yourself. I, like some commuters, really do treasure my alone time and have no interest in that being interrupted. I’m collecting myself to be strong for what I’m about to walk into…you don’t know my life. Maybe I’m winding down from a stressful day and I don’t have the will to muster up the energy to be social with you. I feel that forcing myself to be nice to you is adding an exponential increase in aggravation to my soul for every minute I have to hold my composure.
Maybe I’m just taking a fucking nap.
Oh, I have been woken up before just for a stupid question.
I do have a reserve in my head for actual important things. I will instantly refrain from releasing any negativity on a really confused tourist, some lost kid, or something comparable to that. The important interactions and disturbances, I understand. I’m always available to lend aid to whoever needs it. I’m compelled by both religion and personality. Although, if you disturb me because you want to have some mundane conversation on why the MTA needs more buses, for example, I will give you stink face.
…but I’ll be amicable still.
I suggest if you need communication that you find one of those people that are happy to talk. One of those people happy to hold a 10 train stop long conversation on cats verses dogs or how much you love your new cable service because it gives you free porn channels. One of those people eager to socialize and make new acquaintances. One of those people who will go home like “I just met such a nice person today.”
I am not one of those people.
Seriously, I’m not. Even friends of mine that run into me while I’m somewhere on the train or bus say I look really mean before they hello. Oh, and while on that subject, text me first. Make it funny if you want, but give me a heads up to change my demeanor if you can. Walking up to me out of the blue will get you the same response as a stranger if I can’t switch for you fast enough.
Just a little 600+ word rant I guess. I really am a super nice person though. You can ask anyone that knows me.
Til next time. Stay frosty.